10 Good Reasons Why Being Single Is A Completely Valid Life Choice

We live in a society that still places more value on marriage and family than living your own life. From the time we are children, we are told that the “normal” path of life is to grow up, get married, and raise kids. Those who have a different plan and choose to stray away from this path are often mistreated and stigmatized by others. Their family, friends, acquaintances, and even strangers feel the need to comment on their personal life and question their decision not to get married. Due to this constant pressure, many people end up getting into unhealthy relationships with abusive partners. Some would rather be in that abusive relationship than choose to be single, and we’re here to tell you that it’s much better to be single than with someone who doesn’t respect you as an equal partner. While choosing to be alone might seem scary and solitary, there are definitely some perks to it. Here are just ten of them:

1. A Chance To Gain Independence

When you choose to be alone, you need to learn to take care of yourself. You start to understand the responsibilities that come with living alone, like paying your bills, maintaining your home/flat, and dealing with tradespeople. You begin to become a more independent and more assertive person and stop relying on others for comfort. Since you won’t have anybody to confide in, you will start to learn to make your own decision and become emotionally independent. It does not mean you lead a life of loneliness too. Because you will have your friends and fam to turn to on one of those days when you feel like you have no one.

2.You Are Your Own Boss

When you choose to be single, you are your own boss. You aren’t answerable to anybody and can take off as you please. You learn to manage your own time better and eat wherever and whatever you feel like. You never have to bother cooking for someone else and adjusting your food tastes accordingly. Decision-making becomes a lot easier and you get more scope to become street smart. Let’s face it, being super innocent and ignorant will make you look weak. It will give people the chance to take advantage of you.

3. You Learn To Enjoy Your Own Company

This is a tricky one. Many people argue that a human is a social animal. You can socialize happily all you want and be equally happy in your own company. Enjoying yourself thoroughly when you are alone simply means that you have reached peak zen mode in your life. Loneliness is a state of mind that isn’t necessarily chosen but stems from being socially excluded. A person who is lonely is someone who is looking for intimacy but cannot find it. If you are someone who chooses to be alone, you are actively making that decision. When you are alone, you don’t have to live up to another person’s standards and can be yourself wholly. You start to learn to enjoy spending time with yourself and focussing on other hobbies and activities.

4. You Don’t Need To Make Compromises

When you live alone, you can be at total peace as there won’t be any disagreements. You won’t have to make compromises to fit in with your partner. The choices your partner makes, and any biases they may have won’t come into play. You won’t have to fit into another person’s timetable. You do what works for you without facing any outside judgment.

5. You Don’t Have To Settle For Less

Some people prefer to be single because they cannot make lifetime promises and commit to one person no matter what, for the rest of their life. This is not a matter of integrity but simply a tactic to avoid pressure or added responsibility. They might not see a serious relationship as the be-all-end-all of their existence. While some may see this attitude as an easy way to get out of relationships, others may choose this lifestyle for various reasons. Some people would rather be non-monogamous, and it is better if they choose to have casual relationships rather than marry someone and cheat on them. Single people would prefer to get to know multiple people rather than putting all of their eggs in one basket.

6. You Start To Become More Accepting Of Yourself

Once you live alone and are single for a certain amount of time, you will learn to start being yourself. You will accept yourself more and learn to trust in your own judgment. You will begin to develop your own opinions and ideas. Developing more individuality as a person and learning what you are capable of, without facing the constraints of other people’s thinking will make you grounded as well as alert.

7. Your Living Space Is Your Own

When you are alone for a period of time, it can start to affect your mood too. You will be able to have more control over your environment and change your living space according to your own preferences. You can be as tidy as you wish and as untidy as well. You can also decorate your home however you like it and arrange the furniture the way you want. After all, your home reflects certain aspects of your personality, and when you are single, it is entirely yours!

8. You Can Focus On Other Aspects Of Your Life

We’re not trying to say that you cannot work on yourself if you are in a relationship. However, you have more opportunities for self-development when you are single. Developing oneself can help you strengthen your weaknesses and build character. This could help you become a better partner if you choose to get into another relationship. Even if you do not desire to find another partner, bettering yourself should not be seen as unfavorable. When you don’t have someone to answer to, you can use all the extra time to work on yoga, business ideas, education, finances, and much more. You get to choose how and where to spend your time, and this is why people choose to be single.

9. You Have More Control Over Your Expenses

Thanks to the pandemic, many of us have had to come to terms with the fact that everything has become super uncertain. The economy is volatile, and many people want to secure their place in the world. Many might be staying single to devote more time to their careers and education. In the end, the most important thing you need to survive in this world is money, and earning it should be your top priority.

10. You Have To Find Your Own Happiness

If you don’t have a healthy relationship with yourself, how will you have a relationship with someone else? By embracing solitude, you will have to learn to be with yourself and accept the possibility that you might be alone for some time. For many who choose to be single, being single is a way to live their life to the fullest and feel comfortable in their own skin. You will have to learn to find happiness within yourself instead of outside sources.

No matter what others say, choosing to be single is a personal choice, and nobody can tell you otherwise. Your life is yours to live, and choosing to be single is a choice that you decide to make. Nobody can make this choice for you. Having said that, remember not to impose your decision on anybody. If being in a relationship makes others happy, that’s just how they approach life, just like how you value and enjoy your “me” time the most. Do let us know all of your thoughts in the comments section below.

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