5 Things To Remember If Your Ex-Boyfriend Is Getting Married
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Heartbreak is a part of life. In this long-winding journey that we call life, almost all of us have loved and lost at some point in time. Whether you had to part ways with your beloved due to circumstances or you just grew apart with time, we all have had to deal with this emotional upheaval. And we have dealt with it, in our own different ways. Some of us made best friends with our work to forget the heartbreak. Some have danced those blues away with a breakup song. Some have sought the help of Dionysus (wine god) in order to move on. Nevertheless, we did manage to get the job done.
And right when you thought that you’re getting some semblance of normalcy back in your life, you come across something that reminds you of them and you come crashing back to the square one. And if that reminder happens to be their wedding notification on Facebook, then that feeling gets magnified by a hundredfold.
If you can relate to these emotions, then don’t give up just yet because we are here to tell you that all’s not lost yet. Let us guide you in navigating this particularly difficult emotional maze. In order to do that, these are the things you need to remember:
1. You Broke Up With Him For A Reason
Sure, you experienced some great times together. Maybe you even pushed each other to be better people. But if everything was so hunky dory, you wouldn’t have broken up with them in the first place, would you? Think of all those reasons why the relationship failed. If you couldn’t ignore those flaws or idiosyncrasies for the short duration of your relationship, how could you’ve borne that weight for the rest of your life? Treasure the great moments, but also remember the hard lessons that you learned from that failed relationship.
2. You Have Been There Done That
When you fall in love with a person, you love every little thing they do. Whether it’s the way they snort while laughing or the fact that they are so particular about their food. As time passes, you learn to put up with these quirks since so great is your love for your SO. But after a breakup, you wonder how you could even tolerate them, to begin with. That is not to say that they didn’t have any great qualities. Sure, they did, but you have already seen whatever they had to offer. Now it’s time someone else experiences those joys.
3. You Need To Attend The Wedding Looking Hotter Than Ever!
Instead of moping around in a corner, use this event as an opportunity to dial up your hotness quotient. Rather than spending the eve of the wedding in your home sulking with a tub of ice cream, and a Meg Ryan movie, get dressed to the nines, and attend that wedding with a hot date in tow (best friend/current boyfriend/cousin/padosi – any one of these options would do). And don’t worry, doing so won’t mean that you’re being petty. It’s your duty as his former girlfriend (and by that logic his well-wisher) to show him what he missed out on. Also, a girl’s got to have some fun!
4. This Is The Perfect Opportunity For A Clean Break
Take this as an opportunity to get rid of the emotional baggage, that you’ve been lugging around with you since the break-up. Whether that baggage means that you cyberstalk your ex-beau, or that you constantly second-guess yourself in relationships or that you constantly seek ways to get back with them – it varies from person to person. But now that your ex is standing on the altar, you no longer have to carry it around with you. You can close that chapter once and for all. He has found someone else and now you can truly move on.
5. Take It As A Reminder To Explore
If you haven’t done this already, then use this opportunity to start afresh. Now that your past has dislodged itself from your life, it’s time to focus on yourself. And not just in terms of dating. Take this time to rediscover or reinvent yourself. Go on vacations, do things that are unlike you or things that you never did with them. Reconnect with friends you’ve ignored for him. And most importantly, fall in love with yourself. In fact, it is crucial that you focus your energy on this rather than using your ex’s wedding as an excuse to beat yourself up for the failure of that relationship.
Most importantly, remember that you are not ready to throw in the towel yet. You deserve the world, and for the amazing person that you are, you’re bound to get it too. So, don’t give up just yet, the most magical chapters in your life are yet to be written. We hope that these tips are going to help you get over your ex-boyfriend’s wedding. If you have any more suggestions, share them with us in the comments section.
