When Is The Right Time To Have The ‘Marriage Talk’ With A Girlfriend Or Boyfriend?
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Getting married is a major commitment, and discussing the prospects of marriage can be a more significant hurdle to climb over than one might think. If you’ve been in a relationship for what you presume is a long time (everyone has a different timeline), it’s understandable that you would want to initiate this conversation with your partner. Before you lay your heart on the line and speak to your partner, however, it’s a good idea to consider a few factors first. Here is a list of elements, one must consider before having the ‘marriage talk’ with their partner:
1. Are You Both In Financially Stable Situations?
A lot of people tend to ignore this factor and jump head-on into marriage. You cannot get married and then suffer because the both of you aren’t in a financially established situation. Considering how serious a commitment marriage is, financial responsibility has to play a significant role in the matter. From an increase in household expenses and rent, the amount of cash required to live a relatively comfortable life just keeps increasing and both you as well as your partner should be prepared for this. Thus, it’s a smart idea to get married only once you two have sat together and sorted out your financial situation.
2. Do You Trust Your Partner Completely?
It’s essential to establish trust when you’re with a person. You cannot spend the rest of your life with someone you cannot or do not entirely trust. You might be with someone for years, yet you would want to think twice before trusting them with your life. Honesty and trust are two factors that cannot be compromised upon while you are in a relationship with someone. Therefore it is crucial to know whether you fully trust your partner before deciding to get hitched to them.
3. Are You Both Emotionally Inseparable?
Just as every relationship has a honeymoon phase where everything seems like peaches and cream, so does marriage. It might be exciting initially, and you might feel like you made a wise decision and are on top of the world, but eventually, boredom starts to creep in, and life starts to get a little more mundane. So how does one deal with this? This is when an emotional connection truly comes into play and helps two people stay together. This is why two partners must share a sense of emotional compatibility before they decide to tie the knot.
4. Are Your Fights Resolved Together?
Every relationship has its highs and lows; the only thing that matters is how you overcome them. Communication is another foundation pillar for a relationship to truly succeed. It’s totally normal to have fights with someone you have been with for an extended period of time and making up after the fight can make your relationship even stronger. Marriage requires a lot of work and resolving conflicts play a massive role in it. If you or your partner behaves immaturely and acts super childish or passive-aggressive with the other, things might not pan out well for you.
5. Do You Make Plans Of Having A Future Together?
When you think about your life ten years down the lane, do you see your current partner in it? If yes, you might be pretty close to taking your relationship to the next level. Sure, you might have planned your future out with a lot of people you might have met in the past, but when you know, you know. If you are sure that your partner is the right person, you should let them know as soon as you can.
6. Are You Sure Your Partner Is Ready To Commit?
This is an important fact. If someone is non-committal or doesn’t believe in the concept of marriage, you can’t get involved with them hoping to change their mind. Some people simply don’t believe in the concept of marriage, and nothing you say or do can change their mind. They could love you very very much, but that doesn’t mean they would be willing to set aside their own personal convictions for you. And as their partner, it will be your decision if you want to continue being in a relationship with them or if you know for sure you want to get married to someone in the future. There are loads of couples who have been living together without marriage for many years. Cases in point including Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn, Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham and even Hollywood heartthrob, Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes.
In the end, you need to be 100% sure that you’re ready to take this relationship forward before you decide to get the law involved. Before you bring marriage up with your significant other, you need to sit down and consider all these factors first.
