Couples Who Roast One Another on a Regular Basis Are Stronger, Say Researchers
If you’re in a relationship that rests on the comfortable shoulders of humor, then this is good news to you: couples who roast each other on a daily basis have a stronger relationship than those who don’t.
Picture this: you’ve found your better half and they seem to “tick all the boxes”. They are kind, loving, fun to be with, great with pets. They have managed to strike a chord with your family and friends, their pay cheques are decent, they know how to adult, they make you weak in the knees, and also they know exactly how to tickle your funny bone. Sounds like the perfect deal right? On the flip side, imagine spending your life with someone who can’t take a joke. That’s like having an undiffused bomb comfortably seated in the pretty hallway of your house. You don’t know when it’s going to explode. That’s a situation that you definitely don’t want to be in, right? So, apart from love itself, what makes a relationship strong enough to withstand such explosive situations? Read on to find out.
Love Humor Keeps Your Relationships Alive
You can’t tiptoe around your SO and mince your words just because they don’t entertain your kind of humor. While love is important for any relationship to sustain and brave the winds of love and commitment, it’s not really enough. You can’t always shower your partner with compliments and whisper sweet nothings and expect the relationship to continue to have the spark even after decades of doing the same thing over and over again.
We all need some fun to feel alive, right? And that fun comes from the humor that you guys create together. It’s not enough if one of you is funny. The other one needs to get your humor too. C’mon, you can’t crack a dead baby joke with someone who considers that insensitive. To keep the relationship alive, you need to focus on what you both share and find moments of laughter and fun in that. For instance, does your partner snore? Don’t be hush-hush about it. Give them a funny name and tease them. Let them do the same with your quirks.
What The Experts Say
A researcher at the University of Kansas, Jeffery Hall, conducted an intensive study over a span of 30 years to determine the importance of humor in relationships. He studied 15,000 people. Well, that’s a lot of relationships! He took three decades to analyze what makes relationships to swim or sink. According to him, relationships get stronger if the couple is capable of creating a humorous bond between them. The inside jokes, the funny names, the insults laced with love, all of those add the spark in your relationship. Being able to mock each other, tease each other, and annoy each other like friends and still not get offended is a relationship milestone that couples need to strive to achieve. So, if you’re wondering how to reach that milestone, here’s a quick lowdown-
- Roast Each OtherJust For The Laughs
If two people are able to roast each other on a regular basis without the concern of being ticked off or being harmed emotionally, then that’s a sign of a strong, happy, and entertaining relationship. Think about the flaws and quirks of your partner that only you’re aware of. Do you treat that with humor or with utmost caution? Throw a few funny insults and pull your partner’s leg every time you find them doing something peculiar. Take cues from Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds if you need some inspiration.
The couple posted the following pictures on each other’s birthdays. While Blake posted a picture of the ‘other’ Ryan and cropped her husband out, Ryan Reynolds posted a picture of the two of them, where his wife is evidently cropped out. Now, that’s funny.
- Troll Away Into Your Comfort Zone
Trolling is good as long as you know your boundaries and you don’t overdo it. We repeat, as long as you know your boundaries and you don’t hurt the other person. To be able to troll your partner, you both should be on the same page. Else, there may be a conflict. Understand your partner and understand the kind of jokes that they entertain about themselves. Some may be okay with funny statements regarding their appearance but some may take that as a direct dig at them. So, tread with care.
- A Roast A Day Keeps The Monotony Away
All relationships have their highs and lows, but when you find fun in being together, you tend to lower the stress levels and increase the emotional and physical intimacy. Every relationship has its own idiosyncrasies that make it unique and when you’re chiding each other, you’re essentially creating a unique bond with each other. It makes your disagreements more agreeable, it helps you solve problems in a lighter way, and it makes you more invested in your relationship. The best part is that there will never be a dull moment.
The bottom line here is that the couples who laugh together stay happy together. If you’re in a relationship where you both fight like siblings, love like puppies, and laugh like your funny bone forgot to switch itself off, then give yourselves a pat and preserve that connection. Do you have any pro-tip on how to roast or chide your partner? Let us know in the comments section.
