Pesky Questions From Relatives During Wedding Season
Prepare witty comebacks and stay cool when family curiosity steals the spotlight.
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Despite the ongoing pandemic, it is wedding season and if you’re one of the few who have numerous socially distanced weddings to attend, we applaud your bravery (just kidding). We understand that dealing with pesky questions from relatives can be quite a pain and probably fills you with anxiety, but hey, know that you’re not alone. If there is anything that is universal across all barriers, it’s the general distaste for distant relatives at weddings who try to fill the void that is their lives through intrusively questioning those around them. So how does one respond to such questions while still maintaining the charade of being “respectful”? Well, we’ve scoured the internet and prepared a bunch of sassy and witty answers for you to tell your relatives, the next time they pass unnecessary comments at you:
1. When They Ask About Your Marital Plans
“Thank you for showing such an active concern in my love life. I assure you that you will be the last to know if and when I do eventually plan on tying the knot. For now, I believe my career and social life hold priority over “settling down” with someone and that is probably not going to change by the time I see you at the next wedding. Or shall I say, if I see you at the next wedding.”
2. When They Ask When Your Plan On Having Kids
“I understand that you are concerned about my fertility levels and let me just tell you that I enjoy testing the limits of it. While I am inclined to reply to your question due to familial ties, I would like to point out that your comment is insensitive towards women who cannot have children as well as trans women. Not everyone can have a child and pressuring people to reveal their plans for children is totally not cool.”
3. When They Judge Your Outfits
“Oh well, looks like I moved back to the 1950s. 2025 called and wanted to let you know that while it may be the worst year, it is still not as bad as shaming someone for their choice of outfits in this modern day and era. Maybe take your unnecessary judgement and keep it where it belongs: at your own home.”
4. When They Pass Unsolicited Advice On Your Appearance
“While I do appreciate your interest in my skincare regime, I do not believe that my beauty is derived from Eurocentric standards of beauty, and I am perfectly happy in my own skin. Maybe if you stopped paying attention to TV advertisements telling you to bleach your skin, it would start to look better too!”
5. When They Mock Your Career Choice
“I personally do not believe that a person’s self-worth is determined by their job or lack thereof. Success and failure are subjective to a person’s life and the way it works is that only the person undergoing it, can decide whether they have hit rock bottom or not. As for me personally, I am very satisfied with my current workplace and while there are a lot of goals I wish to achieve, I know I will manage to in due time. I hope you can say the same about your own life.”
6. When They Make Homophobic Statements
“It’s funny how your generation preaches about “respecting elders” when you cannot even respect our decisions to love who we want to. Would you rather live a life of misery with someone who you aren’t even attracted to or would you want to marry the person you truly love regardless of their gender? If you choose the former, then you’re the one who needs help, not the person coming to terms with their identity. Just because you choose to abide by strict gender and orientation binaries, doesn’t mean the world needs to as well.”
7. When They Pass Casteist/Racist Comments
“The world would be a much nicer place if you kept some of your opinions to yourself. While you may prefer living in a country where we discriminate against others on the basis of outward appearances and socio-economic strata, I live in a modern world and I refuse to tolerate such ignorant comments. Please get outside your box and understand that the world is much larger than what you perceive it to be.”
While dealing with annoying relatives can put a dampener on your mood and make you not want to attend weddings at all, you don’t have to spend too much time around them if you don’t want to. We’re sure your parents find them equally exhausting and won’t hold it against you if you are straight up and blunt about things. After all, you are an adult now and can make your own life decisions (and occasionally suffer the consequences of them). Tell us how you deal with super pesky questions from your relatives in the comment section below!
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