7 “Goals” That Internet Couples Convinced Us Are The Hallmark Of A Good Relationship But Actually Aren’t

Written by Niharika Nayak, BA (Media & Communication)  • 

Let’s be real. Getting into a relationship in today’s day and age is no easy task. Sure, romance movies and your best friend might make it seem like they just happen, but that isn’t always the case. For most people, getting into and staying in a real relationship (a healthy one) takes time and sometimes multiple takes. However, the sad reality is that we live in an age of social media and are so used to seeing people regularly posting about their lovers that we tend to believe that there must be something wrong with us. After all, if getting into a relationship is as easy as social media says, what is wrong with us? Well, here’s why we need to stop taking romance lessons from our phones:

1. Becoming Instagram Official

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“Instagram Official” is one of the most problematic tags millennials and gen-zers have come up with. Many of us are quick to judge our partner when they don’t put up that post with us and “claim us” as their own. However, that’s not the only thing that guarantees a happy relationship. Sure, putting up a picture with your partner might mean that fewer potential partners are trying to “slide into their DMs,” but that does not guarantee your partner’s faithfulness. You don’t need to put up every single milestone moment on your Instagram account.

2. Giving Expensive Gifts

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We all know that feeling of annoyance when you open someone’s Instagram story, and they’re bragging about their partner gifting them a Rolex or a fancy vacation. However, expecting your partner to do the same for you is asking for too much. There’s nothing wrong with keeping expectations but expecting your partner to give you costly gifts is asking for too much. In the end, what really matters is the gesture, and if you’re superficial enough to expect your partner to give you something out of their budget, you’re not mature enough to be in a relationship.

3. Finding Your “Soulmate” Is A Piece Of Cake

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Most people genuinely believe that they will find their soulmate if they just keep looking. Well, we’re sorry to say, but sometimes, things just don’t work out. If you live with the false perception that the person you are currently dating is your soulmate, then you might miss out on red flags and toxic moments in your relationship. We’ve been brainwashed into believing that perfection truly exists when, in reality, even the happiest and longest relationships need work. Of course, this does not mean that you should hop from one relationship to the other in the pursuit of perfection.

4. A Fight Means The End

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It is perfectly natural for couples to disagree on matters. Considering that two people in a relationship are individuals and not one being, they will argue and fight occasionally. Of course, this doesn’t mean that you and your partner should be fighting every time. If you find yourself fighting with your partner over the tiniest of issues, you just might be incompatible.

5. Anniversaries Have To Be Grand

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If you ask your parents what they gifted each other for their wedding anniversary, they would probably say they bought each other a book or maybe went for a romantic dinner. Some might even say they’ve lost track of time and don’t celebrate them anymore. Just because your friend’s boyfriend booked the two of them a hot-air balloon and bragged about it on social media doesn’t mean you should expect your partner to do the same. Sure, it’s okay to want something special from your partner but forcing them to do something they might not be comfortable with isn’t cool either.

6. Being Single Is Sad And Unfulfilling

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There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. Some of us are simply unlucky in love, and that’s perfectly fine. Life is a 70 odd year-long journey, and you win some and lose some in the process of it. A relationship takes a lot of work, and if you feel you aren’t ready for one, it’s not a good idea to get into one simply because you’re afraid of being alone. At the end of the day, whether you date someone or not, we’re all going to die alone. Rather than waste your time moping over being single, you can focus on improving other aspects of your life. Once you decide to take your destiny into your own hands and ignore the naysayers, you’ll realize that there is much more to life than relationships.

7. Relationships Are Always Peachy And Happy

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This is another lie that is often perpetuated by those in relationships. They want you to believe that everything is dandelion and roses when it is far from reality. No couple is going to put up their fights, insecurities, and vulnerabilities online. Many could put up the happiest of pictures and still be absolutely miserable with one another.

In the end, you should be able to express yourself in whichever way you like, so you cannot hate on these couples for what they do. It’s a better idea to simply live your life without caring what other couples are doing. Sure, this is easier said than done because we live in an age of social media and most couples want to show off their partners to the world. Do you agree with the things mentioned in our list? Let us know your thoughts in the comment section below.

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