Many of us have an aversion towards unsolicited advice, and when it comes to advice from our mums, we tend to laugh it off and think they’re being dramatic. Now that we’re older and more mature, we can look back at some advice she might have given us that ended up truly making us smack our foreheads over how obviously useful it was. “Mummy knows best” is not just a saying to be taken lightly. So, let’s take a look at some instances where you wish you could go back in time and yell at yourself for not taking her advice:
1. “Not Everyone Is Your Friend”
Can we get an Amen? This is one piece of advice your mother means and it is absolutely correct. Many of us have learned it the hard way that we may not be compatible with all those who are in our friend circle. If you know the saying “Dost Nikhla Saap” you know exactly what we’re talking about. We often misjudge a person by taking them at face value and then finding out that things aren’t as they may seem. As we grow older we get better at catching these friendship “red flags” and eventually learn to pick the right crowd.
2. “The World Is Not As Safe As You Think”
This is something we will only learn the hard way. No matter how much our parents caution us from the outside world, it will never hit us as hard as experiencing it for ourselves. As your mother always tells you, nothing good ever comes easy. Her advice is often extremely useful when you’re starting out with your higher education and career. The struggle you have to go through to reach your goals is something that everyone has had to endure in their own way at some point. As your mother always tells you, you need to be mindful and conscious of those around you.
3. “Don’t Wear Your Heart On Your Sleeve”
Our mothers have been through their own share of heartbreaks and crushes so when they tell you not to wear your heart on your sleeve, they’re just looking out for you. Of course, this doesn’t mean that they don’t want you to date or fall in love at all, they just want you to be careful who you allow into your life. When mums tell us not to wear our hearts on our sleeve, they mean it in the best way possible.
4. “Don’t Demand Respect. Earn It.”
Another valuable piece of mum advice is to always make your actions speak louder than your words. They say you can only receive true respect if you earn it. Demanding it will only result in people faking their respect for you. It is important to stay humble and grounded no matter what stage you are in your life. It is only when you earn the respect that you will be able to command it successfully.
5. “Save Money For A Rainy Day”
While you cannot be expected to have life savings in your early twenties, it is always important to keep an emergency fund for the worst-case scenario. You never know when hard times might befall you and it’s always a good idea to keep a few thousands saved up. Sure, you might be convinced to purchase that gorgeous outfit you saw in an advertisement but always consider whether the purchase will matter to you in the long run or not. You might be tempted by social media to go out and have fun all the time but your expenditure should be always monitored.
6. “Don’t Lose Your Identity In A Relationship”
This is another point that we should always keep in mind for the rest of our lives as a matter of fact. Sometimes we tend to lose ourselves when we get involved with someone and lose sight of our goals and other characteristics. When our mums deliver this advice, they want us to take time out to meet our friends, indulge in self-care, and also focus on our hobbies while maintaining a healthy relationship. Sure, it may sound like a lot of hard work and you might not enjoy being away from your partner as much, it still is important to make time for all the smaller, joyful things in life.
7. “Never Back Down From Your Ultimate Goals”
Whether your goal is to be a successful career woman or start a family and maintain a career or simply be a stay-at-home mom, it is important for you to start working towards them from the start. At the end of the day, your mother just wants you to prioritize your goals or your family’s goals over other things. Your mother wants you to have a strong sense of self and not back down no matter who asks you to. If you believe you’re in the right, she wants you to be able to communicate and voice your opinions out to those around you.
Your mother may not be around for your entire life cycle, but her pearls of wisdom will forever be appreciated in a world that is sometimes not always fair. Whatever your mother tells you, she tells you from a place of concern and sympathy. Your mother is the one cheerleader who will always be wishing you the very best no matter what happens. It’s important to appreciate and thank her for her advice when it helps you out. Whether it is as simple as adding an extra chili into your curry or complicated love advice. Tell us your thoughts on this article in the comment section below. What mom advice would you give your child?