7 Signs That You Are Slowly Drifting Apart From Your Partner

Written by Niharika Nayak, BA (Media & Communication)  • 

In every relationship there comes a time when things reach a standstill and you’re left wondering if this is the right relationship for you. Whether this happens seven months into a relationship or seven years into one, it doesn’t mean that it hurts any less. While you may unintentionally be giving your partner signals that you aren’t interested anymore, there are numerous ways in which you can make an effort to change your relationship. One of the biggest reasons people split up after being in a long-term relationship for years is simply because of a lack of effort or one partner being stuck in a bit of a rut. So let’s take a look at seven signs that you may be drifting apart from your partner:

1. You Notice Changes In Their Behavior

You Notice Changes In Their Behavior
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You start to notice that your partner has changed their preferences and while you might have known their preferences like the back of your hand, they might be exhibiting odd behavior. Maybe you’ve noticed that you don’t communicate as well as you used to before. Maybe you feel like your partner has grown while you have remained in the same place. One way to fix this is to ask your partner how they’re doing and having a cute movie night together.

2. You Don’t Fight Anymore. At All.

You Don't Fight Anymore. At All.
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“Happy couples don’t fight” is a complete myth. There is no way that you can share a space and be together for a long period of time without having any disagreements. Fights usually arise when you are emotionally distressed and it is perfectly natural to get emotionally distressed over certain topics. If your partner does something that you do not like, you can bring it up with them in a healthy, non-accusatory manner, and hence avoid the frustration of facing similar issues later.

3. You Can’t Remember The Names Of Their Friends And Colleagues

You Can’t Remember The Names Of Their Friends And Colleagues
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Since we spend a majority of our time at work, it’s no surprise that some of your partner’s colleagues’ names will pop up every now and then. Couples who are happy together, will do a “weather check” every now and then, to make sure that things are moving smoothly. If you can’t recall the names of your partner’s colleagues, then it might be a sign that you’re growing disinterested in them. Ask specific questions about their lives rather than just asking them how their day went. Try and remember a specific colleague of theirs who probably affects them a lot.

4. You’re Not Excited About Sharing Good News

You’re Not Excited About Sharing Good News
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Of course, you probably call your mom and best friend when you receive a promotion but if your partner is the last person to find out the good news, you should wonder why you aren’t comfortable sharing it with them. Do they make you feel bad if you’re doing better than them in life? Or do you just not receive any sense of acknowledgment when you tell them? Find out what the root of the problem is before you lose your sense of belonging.

5. You Can No Longer Be “Comfortably Silent”

You Can No Longer Be “Comfortably Silent”
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Remember those times where you could just be around your partner and do absolutely nothing together. If you notice that the silences are getting increasingly uncomfortable and awkward, it might be a sign that everything might not be alright. Maybe you and your partner can try something new every week. Even if you don’t have much time to try something new with your partner, you should definitely catch a movie together or do something to remind each other of the good times.

6. You Can’t Hold Eye Contact

You Can’t Hold Eye Contact
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If you notice that you and your partner find it hard to hold eye contact with one another it might be a sign that you’re uncomfortable in each other’s presence. If your communication is starting to get affected and you find yourself avoiding their gaze, it might mean that you don’t want to engage anymore. Try smiling at them when you do manage to catch their eyes and gauge their reaction to it. If they return your smile with a matching one of their own, then it’s a sign that you can probably communicate better.

7. You’ve Stopped Caring About Their Life

You’ve Stopped Caring About Their Life
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Maybe you’ve been so busy entrenched in your own life that you don’t notice things are going wrong in theirs. A relationship is a two-way street and requires two people to put effort into it. For a relationship to work there needs to be good communication on both ends and both partners should feel equally heard. You should talk to your partner openly about where you feel your relationship is going and try rebuilding the connection you once shared.

At the end of the day, the only way a relationship can work is if you really do want it to work. Openly communicate your wants and needs with your partner and talk about where things may be lacking. Have you ever noticed these signs in a relationship that has run its due course? Tell us all of your thoughts in the comment section below.

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