13 Signs That Show Your Marriage May Be Headed Towards Divorce
Spot the hidden warning signals early and take control before your bond starts to break.
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Nobody walks into a marriage thinking that they are going to be leaving it in a few years. Yet, there are plenty of marriages that end in divorce. But that’s not always a bad thing. Sometimes, two people grow apart and don’t share the same affection they had for each other when they first got together. If you feel like your marriage might not be going as you think, here are thirteen signs that show your marriage may be headed towards a divorce:
1. You Don’t Feel Happy When You’re With Your Partner
When you are in a healthy relationship, you probably feel happy most of the time. Of course, every couple out there has a few fights and disagreements every now and then, but if you are fighting for a majority of the time you are together, that’s not okay. If you feel like your partner shuts you down, is critical towards you, is highly unreliable, lazy, and more for most of the time, then that is a sign that things may not be working out.
2. Your Partner Doesn’t Communicate With You Anymore
In order to have a healthy and loving relationship, you need to communicate with each other the right way. Even if you and your partner disagree on certain things, it’s crucial that you understand how the other feels and don’t abuse each other or get bitter. If you feel like the communication between you and your partner has broken down completely and you fight more than speak, it may be an indication of a bad relationship.
3. Your Partner Is Disrespectful Towards You
The most fundamental aspect of every relationship is a mutual sense of respect. Ridicule, insensitivity, and absence of empathy can lead to resentment, anger, and in some cases, fear.
4. You Look For Reasons To Avoid Your Partner’s Company
Do you ever feel like you would rather be doing something else than being around your partner? Or do you find that when you get home from work, you just want to sit inside your car and gather your cool before you face your partner? This might be a sign that the dynamic in your relationship has changed.
5. Your Gut Instinct Is Telling You To Leave
If you feel like your stomach is always twisted in a knot when you are with your partner, then that may be a sign that you should leave. It’s vital that you trust your gut instincts and speak to a therapist to help you understand the pros and cons of your decision.
6. Every Interaction With Your Partner Feels Like A Chore
If you feel like every interaction is painful and more like a chore than a discussion, then it could signify that things between you and your partner are not okay. If every conversation you have with your partner feels dramatic and complex, then that isn’t a good sign.
7. There Is A Sudden Change In Their Behaviour
If you notice a sudden change in your partner’s behavior or see that they are spending a lot of time on “business meetings” or to keep up their appearance, then that could be a bad sign. Of course, this doesn’t mean that they could only be keeping up their appearances for another person. They could also be doing it for health reasons.
8. There Is No Physical Intimacy In Your Marriage
During tough times, intimacy can often be the glue that holds a married couple together. And no, we aren’t just referring to the intimacy that goes on in the bedroom. Do your partner, and you hold hands anymore? Do you still enjoy cuddling with your partner? These are the questions you need to ask yourself. If you feel like your partner does not want to get intimate with you or constantly makes up excuses, you need to pause for a moment and rethink.
9. Your Loved Ones Are Urging You To End Things
Sometimes your loved ones genuinely know what’s best for you. Your parents and friends obviously would not want you to end a healthy relationship, but you should pay attention if you feel like your loved ones don’t like your partner.
10. When You Think Of The Future You Don’t See Your Partner
Can you imagine a future with your current partner? If you don’t have children and you want to have them in the future, do you see your partner as the father/mother of the child? If you can’t see yourself by your partner’s side in the next five years or so, then that’s not a good sign.
11. You Have Major Disagreements Over Money
One of the biggest reasons for couples splitting up is financial problems. Understandably, you and your partner might have different spending capacities, but if you find yourself bickering over the most basic of expenses, then that could be a significant problem.
12. Your Priorities In Life Have Changed
In a good relationship, most couples value the very same big things. But over time, people change, and what they may have once valued, they don’t care for anymore. One partner might take up a new lifestyle or may get a job opportunity in another country, while the other may want to focus on their career. Things change, and sometimes, it’s essential that you focus on yourself first.
13. You Look Towards Your Vices As A Source Of Comfort
You really shouldn’t need a cigarette or a few bottles of beer to tolerate spending time with your partner. If you see that you have been falling into bad habits (and you didn’t before), then you should know that this is an unhealthy form of escaping. If you can’t tolerate your partner while sober, you might have lost the connection you once shared with them.
If you feel like you are no longer comfortable with your partner, or you feel like your interactions with one another may have changed, or if your partner has strayed during your relationship, then it might be time to call it quits. Getting a divorce is never easy and should really be your last resort, but you need to remember to put yourself before anybody else. Do let us know all of your thoughts on this article in the comment section below.
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