9 Signs That Suggest You Are In A One-sided Relationship
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We often end up giving everything that we have to the person who we think is the love of our life, isn’t it? But what if this person is not the love of your life and you are just showering your love and care on someone who doesn’t even appreciate it? This is what will happen— you give, give, and give until you feel so empty that you don’t have anything left for yourself. Unrequited love is painful and it’s the most painful when the person who doesn’t care about you now, used to make you feel special and important. If you feel that you are in such a relationship, it’s important that you weigh yourself more and get out of it.
However, some people tend to overthink which makes them feel like their partner doesn’t love them. Your expectations might be too high for him/her to meet and this is when you need to introspect yourself. So, where do you draw the line? How do you understand if you’re in a one-sided relationship or if it’s all in your head? Before freaking out, read the below 9 signs that will help you get clarity on this issue.
1. You Are The One Who Always Takes The Initiative
Is it you who is always making date plans and other things? If yes, think about your partner twice. If they are genuinely busy, talk to them and let them know that you need their help in planning things and you like it when they take initiative. However, if your partner has a lot of free time but doesn’t care about making plans with you, take the hint.
2. You Are Not A Priority To Them
You come at the bottom of their priority list or worse— you’re not even there in the list. Since you are such a nice person and you’ve made yourself available whenever they want you, they know that you will be there no matter how they treat you. Someone who loves you truly will never do this to you and will always think about you before making decisions even if they are small.
3. You’re The One Who Always Apologizes After A Fight
Even if it is not your fault, do you end up apologizing to your partner because you don’t want to stay away from them? And if you don’t take the initiative to say sorry, you and your partner might not speak for days because of the fight. Of course, we know that you are doing this because your partner means the world to you and you love them a lot. But if this happens all the time, your partner is ungrateful and they do not deserve you.
4. They Take You For Granted
Your partner doesn’t appreciate any of the efforts that you take in order to help them or your relationship. They take you and your love for granted and never care about returning even the tiniest piece of it to you. They don’t ask anything about your day or your feelings and always talk only about themselves.
5. They Don’t Care About The Special Days
You might have started planning for their birthday a month ago but do they really care about yours? It’s not about the expensive gifts and the fancy party partners throw each other. It’s about how your partner takes the effort to make you feel special on your big day. This applies to your anniversary as well.
6. Deep Inside You Are Sad And Frustrated
Since you have been in a dead-end relationship for quite a while, you feel like you’re unwanted and not cared for. It affects your mood constantly and eventually you get frustrated for little things. Everyone deserves to be loved, darling. So, stop watering a dead plant.
7. You Have Mixed Thoughts About Your Partner
Most of the time you feel mad at your partner. But because of your good heart and the fact that you’re madly in love with them, you end up seeing them through the cupid eyes again. If you are this confused about your partner and relationship most of the time, the answer is a big, loud NO!
8. Your Partner Doesn’t Really Know You
Do you think your partner knows you as well as you know them? Do you think they will be able to talk clearly about your dreams, aspirations, likes, and dislikes? If the person isn’t taking any interest in knowing you, they DO NOT deserve to be a part of your life.
9. You Feel Alone Most Of The Time
Even if you are in a “committed relationship,” you feel alone most of the time. He might be physically present with you but if he’s emotionally absent, he isn’t really there. And yes, physical presence is important too.
If you find that you’ve been battling with your feelings and you notice the above signs, talk to your partner. Try to figure things out and trust your gut feeling. Walk out of a relationship that doesn’t make you happy. You are worthy of someone who loves you the way you deserve to be loved and not a trophy boyfriend/girlfriend. We hope you find it in you to make the right decision. Take care *mmuahh*!
