5 Signs He’s Too Immature For A Relationship
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Have you ever wondered why you’ve always fallen for guys who have the emotional age less than ten, and that too every time? Well, let’s just say that some women like the boyish charm these men possess. In the beginning, he’ll try his best to impress you and be all smart, funny, and attractive. However, as you move forward in your relationship, you find that it’s just you who’s moving and he is standing in the same place where you began. Now, the romantic and carefree spirit that he has will actually start bothering you because sometimes you feel like you’re the only person who cares about your relationship. Some men are so immature that their girlfriends eventually become their baby sitters (girls don’t even get paid for it). You may love him, but do you really want to be in a relationship with a man who doesn’t care about your emotional needs? It will drain you out completely and nobody deserves that.
Things become hard when you give the relationship more time than it deserves. This makes you, the deep lover, get attached to the man stronger and stronger. So, it’s important that you find out what kind of a man you are dating, before you decide to commit further. Here are 5 signs that will help you decide if the guy you’re going out with is too immature for a relationship. We hope this helps.
1. He Will Not Commit To You
He’s really good to you whenever you people are together. Your dates are romantic and truly memorable. However, you are the only one who calls him up most of the time and ask if you could meet. This probably wasn’t the way things were when you first started going out. He tells you, that he “isn’t looking for anything serious right now,” after a few weeks of dating. Well, if you want to give him time and see if he changes his mind, we’d say it’s going to be like a rope walk over a lava pool in hell. If you think he’s worth it, go ahead. But if you feel that he isn’t that into you, pick up your heels and run as far as you can!
2. He Takes More Than He Gives
If you are the one who is constantly doing things for him while he doesn’t really invest any effort in making you happy, you’re definitely with the wrong guy. It might make you feel like the sweeter and kinder one but this is your relationship and NOT charity work. Does he often borrow money from you or asks for favors way too many times? Does he plan your birthdays or your anniversary just the way you do? These are a few important questions you should ask yourself before moving into a serious relationship with the man that you’re in love with. A person who is too immature to understand your emotional needs is never healthy for you because, in the long run, you will be frustrated and lost because you’ve given everything to him and you’re left empty.
3. You’re The Only Responsible One
Are you the only one who thinks about the problems that come up in your relationship? If yes, try to ask him why he isn’t helping in dealing with them because after all, it’s something that concerns your relationship. He should be equally involved in the discussion and execution of your decisions in order to solve your problems. You shouldn’t be the only one who worries about introducing him to your friends and family, you shouldn’t be the only one who talks about the future, and you certainly shouldn’t be the only one trying to deal with the tough situations.
4. He Never Apologizes
An immature person will never admit their mistakes and even if they do, they’ll come up with excuses to get out of it by apologizing. Telling that they’re sorry and owning to their mistakes hurts their fragile ego. The fight or argument will either cool down on its own or you apologize (in worst case scenarios) to make things right. Also, if he ever storms out or hurts you, it’s always you who call back while he blocks you out for days.
5. He Ignores Your Boundaries
Even if you are blindly in love, you as a person have certain boundaries. This isn’t exclusive to you, because each individual is supposed to have these boundaries. A matured partner will respect your boundaries and never barge in and make you uncomfortable. And even if they did so by mistake, they’re only getting to know you and they’ll apologize. However, if your partner ignores your boundaries and acts as if it’s all cool, stay away from him. He might ask you to “get over it” instead of apologizing.
If you’re already in a relationship with someone like this, talk to them. Tell them that you’re expecting them to understand and act more responsible since you care about your relationship. Also, make it clear that you will not tolerate a relationship that is lopsided on any terms. If your partner truly loves you and deserves a future with you, she/ he will try to understand and put more effort into making things right. Have you ever dated someone who is too immature to handle a relationship? How did you deal with it? Share your experience with us in the comments below.
