11 Small Investments That Make A Happy Marriage
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Let’s start by painting a picture of a happy marriage. As a child, you thought that marriage was a happy ending. But now that you are all grown up, you know that this is where the challenge merely begins! Making a happy marriage out of a wedding takes a lot of love, patience, and understanding, and we totally understand if you want to take a gazillion years to figure out if you really want this! The good news is, once you find the right person, you are halfway there.
Here are some practical ways to make your happy marriage stronger than ever. Go through this list to know them all.
1. Flirt It Out
Just because you are married does not mean you have to quit flirting! WAIT, not with other guys! Marriage can turn monotonous when you both act proper-proper with each other and tune the spice down. Well, it’s marriage and not school, so you can be as flirtatious as you want with your husband. The best part is, nothing can go wrong!
2. Aim For More Sleep
This might sound more like a health tip, but being sleep-deprived is what brings out Mr. Cranky Pants. This leads to problems in your relationship, and you will never know what you did to deserve such behavior. So before anything, make sure you prioritize your sleep schedule and then indulge in any kind of activity you have been meaning to do together.
3. Make Time For Friends
Spending time together is essential, but it does not mean you have to suffocate each other with your presence. It’s healthy to take time out with your friends and let them do the same. Don’t always ask him where he is going or when he will be back. Giving each other time is also a way of getting close to each other.
4. Make An Effort
They say a person gives his 100% effort only when it comes to wooing the girl, and once she becomes your partner, the efforts cease to exist. The efforts can be as small as writing a note every day or ensuring the bathwater is ready. Making these efforts and acknowledging your partner’s efforts is the key to a long and happy marriage. This might be the reason why most marriages turn gray and humbug after a few years.
5. Communicate Actively
Honestly, the biggest mistake is not being vocal enough in a relationship. If you don’t communicate what you want, there is significantly less chance he will understand what’s there on your mind. Say where you feel like eating, ask him to take a leave, spend time with you when you feel sick, and tell him why you are mad at him. This will help you understand each other and keep you both in sync.
6. Spend Time Together
Time is one of the most expensive gifts you can give anyone, and when it comes to spending quality time with your partner, it only brings you both closer. It doesn’t always have to be dates or going out with friends. You can spend time learning something new or even give classes for something you both really like. Some couples are good at gardening, some interior decoration, and some even engage in DIY projects every week.
7. Be Grateful
We understand you both handle different departments, and both work really hard to make it work. But instead of explaining to your partner why you need to be appreciated more, it’s time you thank him for his part without mentioning what you did on your side. It may startle him if you never said that before, but it will surely melt him and bring you both closer to know that you both are grateful for what each of you has to bring to the table.
8. Be Patient
Yes, there will be millions of instances when your belief in nonviolence will disappear, and you will want to throw the first thing you can find right at your partner. We understand it might be their fault, but not screaming and listening to their side of the story goes a long way. Your partner may be going through something you don’t know of, and that is what makes him so distracted constantly. There is also a possibility that he is trying to instigate a fight just to get your attention. Make sure you stay calm and lend an ear for them to spill what’s in their heart.
9. Pray Together
A family that prays together stays together. We don’t mean there have to be rituals, and you need to be religious. A simple act like praying brings you
and your partner together and builds a spiritual bond around you.
10. Find Your Own Happiness
Consider how much time you’ve wasted trying to find happiness. You need to stop hunting for the big things in your marriage and start appreciating the little things. It’s not that you should clip your happiness in marriage; you should find ways to be happy together. Find places you like hanging out together or movies you both like, and it will build a strong bond between you both.
11. Take Care Of Your Health
As long as you both are healthy, nothing can intervene in your relationship. Problems start when you are not physically and mentally well, and then stress takes over your thinking. Indulge in a good diet and active routine to keep yourself healthy always.
So now that you know how to build a strong marriage, nothing can come between you and your partner. Marriage is like true friendship, and you need to spend time understanding each other. The more you give time to one another, the more you will grow in love. So, do you have any secrets to a happy marriage? Let us know in the comments below.
