8 Things A Woman Should Never Change For Her Husband
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They say that change is the only constant in life; it’s the law of nature. Also, a change is always considered to be good if you want to discover another aspect of your personality or want to achieve something new in your life. But always remember that changes are good as long as they are initiated by you alone!
One of the most important changes that we willfully participate in is the institution of marriage. While mentally preparing yourself to step into a bond of matrimony, you’ll often hear people tell you how life changes considerably for a girl. In fact, you’ll find plenty of parents around you who’ve been teaching their daughters the art of changing oneself after her marriage.
We totally understand that marriage does involve a lot of compromises. You’re starting your life with another individual and both of you need to give in on certain things to make your marriage a peaceful one. But always remember that one should never compromise to the extent of losing one’s individuality — this is unacceptable! Always remember how you’ve been a strong, independent woman, okay? And here are a couple of things that shouldn’t change after a woman gets married, not even for her husband’s sake-
1. Her Identity
In most parts of the world, there’s a common custom that a woman needs to take her husband’s name as her last name after marriage. However, it’s not at all impolite if the woman doesn’t want to do it. It’s totally okay if she wants to hold onto the surname she’s been given by her parents and make no additions or deletions to it — it’s an act of holding on to the identity she was born with, and that’s perfectly okay!
2. Her Dreams
Her aspirations and dreams need to be an important part of her life. They help in building her own unique identity. Just like you, even your dreams are unique. Thus, one must never give up on this uniqueness in life. Rather, every woman must dream and work hard to achieve what she desires, and at no point of time in life must she give in to any kind of marital pressures or responsibilities.
3. Her Opinions And Beliefs
Everybody has their own set of beliefs and opinions that they like to stick to and live their lives. Every woman’s beliefs and opinions are hers alone. And if somebody has a problem with it and wants you to let go of your opinions, DON’T! Never give anybody the authority to ridicule what you think is right or wrong.
4. Her Career
People often tend to forget that marriage is only the start of a new chapter in your life. It shouldn’t be the reason for the end of a woman’s career. Every woman builds her career with her talent; therefore only she has the right to decide what turn her career needs to take. Nobody else can take over this decision making authority. It’s important to follow your heart and live your dreams.
5. Her Care Towards Her Family
When it comes to taking care of your family (i.e. your parents and siblings) a woman should never be restricted by her husband or her in-laws. It’s her parents and her siblings with whom she has spent a majority part of her life. So, once married, a woman doesn’t have to forget to keep in touch with her roots (parents) no matter how far away she lives from them.
6. Her Fashion Choices
Being reluctant about wearing the clothes one loved wearing before marriage is very common in culture-bound countries like India. But, no woman needs to change her fashion sense for her parents’ sake. Married or not, every woman needs to be carefree and wear she loves and feels most comfortable in. It’s important to maintain one’s own fashion sense and taste even after the label of a married woman gets attached!
7. Her Friends
Friends keep us sane in this insane world of responsibilities! Therefore, never ever let go of them (don’t even think of it). For everybody, their friends have always been by them through thick and thin; they’re like the second family. And nobody lets go of their family, right? It’s okay to have a new friend circle by becoming friends with the husband’s friends. But it’s not okay to narrow down one’s own friends’ circle because you are married. Buddies stay buddies for life!
8. Her Personal Space And Freedom
Dependency is a very tricky thing in marriage — never surrender to it for it will make you very weak! Every woman needs to be independent and do things the way she wants to. Neither the husband nor the family can interfere with the woman’s freedom or personal space. She shouldn’t have to seek permission for her decisions from anybody else. And at any given point of time if one feels that their personal space is being invaded, it’s important to make it a point to sit down and have a personal talk with the in-laws.
Marriage is a beautiful phase of life. It is essential to live it your way and cherish every moment of it. You will enjoy your life with your husband only if you are being true to yourself in the first place. So, to every woman out there — don’t change yourself and get trapped in the post-marriage societal norms. Be yourself!
