9 Things That We Shouldn’t Let Other People Do To Us

Written by Chandrama Deshmukh  • 

The only one who should be responsible for your life decisions is – no prizes for the right guesses here! – you. You heard us straight, folks. Your life and life-decision consequences will belong to you; hence, it doesn’t take Yoda to figure that you (and not someone else!) should be the one in control of what happens in your life.

True, as children we depend upon the wisdom and guidance of our family members to support and help us through the murky waters of life. However, once we’ve reached the shores of adulthood, it’s vital we take wheel from there (okay, enough with the nautical analogies). But if you’re facing trouble from warding off negative influence in your life, well, here’s a little aid.

Presenting, the 9 things negative people may try to pull over you, but you should steer clear of!

1. Pull You In To Senseless, Silly Debates 

Never waste time and energy on trying to prove something to somebody who has already made up their mind to believe the opposite. True, there might be some people who try to see things from your point of view but ultimately fail. And then there are also those who won’t even make an effort to try to step into your shoes! Are they really worth your energy?

Nope!

2. Make You Ashamed Of Your Past

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We all make mistakes and all of us have tasted the bitter, acrid taste of failure in the past. But people who constantly remind you of this and use it as a tool to put you down should be avoided! Never be ashamed of your failures –  no matter how terrible they may be, they were the experiences that made you the person you are today.

3. Make A Fool Of You 

The more you try to ignore someone’s deception, the faster their deceit will become your reality. So, if you spot a lie, don’t try to sweep it under the rug or remain silent. Patience is the worst tool to handle lies with, it only serves to encourage the liar as they misinterpret it as a sign that their deception is succeeding.

4. Convince You That Change Is Bad

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Some folks are just afraid of change. We all know such people. They are the ones who are afraid of stepping out of their comfort zone, which is fine. But if they’re dragging you into their small, monotonous world and keeping you from spreading your wings, then it’s a problem. These people are usually controlled by fear and uncertainty, not logic or pragmatism – so don’t let them fool you otherwise!

5. Make You Give Up Your Hobbies 

When we do things that means something to us, it makes us happy. So, if your hobby is the reason behind your smile, then you’re definitely on the right track! And if someone in your life is trying to convince you otherwise, stop paying them heed. Don’t let anybody get in the way of you and what makes you happy.

6. Convince You To Aim For Impossible Things

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We must always be grateful for the things we have. And if we start making impossible demands of ourselves and allow other people to do the exact same, we will only let ourselves down. Hence, appreciate what you’re blessed with. That, my friends, is the key to happiness.

7. Persuade You To Take Dangerous Risks 

All good things come with hard work and time. True, some people may manage to attain their goals in a seemingly effortless manner. But these people happen to be the exception to this rule. Everybody has a different approach to life. What may work for someone else may not necessarily work for you. Hence, don’t let someone convince you to take an approach that you know may not suit you at all. Believe in yourself alone.

8. Talk You Out Of Trying Harder

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Sometimes, right when you’re about to reach the finish line, an unforeseen hurdle may come between you and your dreams. The people who love you and believe in you will try to cheer you on during this time and provide you with some support to pick you up. But there will also be others who will make you doubt yourself. Don’t pay attention to them!

9. Keep You From Pursuing Your Dreams 

Things that are worth something won’t come with ease. The path to success is inevitably paved with hurdles like disapproval from loved ones, criticism from the masses, and lots and lots of bad reviews. All of which can overwhelm us. But the people who believe in you will keep you from giving up. As for those who convince you to abandon your dreams when the going gets tough, ignore them!

There you have it – 9 things we just shouldn’t let other people do to ourselves. Do you agree with our list? Let us know in the comments below!

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