6 Things To Do When Your Boyfriend Asks For Space
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As much as the notion of your partner uttering the words “I need some space” might freak you out, trust us, it is an important facet of building a strong relationship. Couples need to have some time without each other. It gives them room to grow and explore the other relationships that they are entitled to (brother, sister, father, mother, cousins, etc.). Giving some time to yourself is never a bad thing. You will never be able to explore what you really want from your life if you’re going to stay glued to someone and only think or worry about a single bond throughout your life.
Oftentimes, the dreary word “space” seems like a red flag for those in a relationship. Especially when a guy asks for some space, women take it for granted that it’s the ending of their relationship. They go all bonkers and dive into depression without understanding what the underlying problem is. Your guy might just be too worried and caught up with potential problems outside your relationship. Maybe, he just wants to take some time off and solve them first, so that he could give his unwavering attention to you.
When your boyfriend is asking for some space, it doesn’t mean that the reason behind that is you alone. So, don’t blame yourself for it. Neither should you blame him for it. Be understanding. These words are sure to make him smile. But if you still feel like a bundle of nerves and don’t really know what to do and how to react when he asks for space, here’s something we have jotted down for you:
1. Discuss The Need For Space
Always remember that it’s the two of you that have built this relationship. Therefore, if he has asked for space, even you need to have a say in it. Sit down and discuss it. Talk about how much of contact is allowed between the two of you during this whole “I need some space” phase. Talk about whether or not an appropriate or inappropriate relationship with others is permitted. Make sure before the space chapter starts, you both have figured the dos and don’ts.
2. Give Him Space, For Real!
If you have agreed to his demand for some space, then do it for real. Don’t smother him in taunts and tantrums. Try and avoid consulting him for everything (we know it’s your favorite habit to do, but refrain from it for now). The more you adhere to what was agreed upon when he asked for space, the sooner this phase will fly.
3. Utilize This Time And Rejuvenate Yourself
It’s all in your hands all right, whether or not you want to whine over this phase or give it a positive spin and enjoy the phase. You should feel like a free bird as you’ve got no strings attached now. Hit those downtown pubs with your favorite girl gang and do everything you enjoy. Also, use this time for some introspection. Go and learn more about yourself and maybe improve yourself for the better. Who knows, maybe even you needed this space. After all, It’s healthy for you both!
4. Don The Hat Of Patience
This whole phase isn’t going to end in a couple of hours or in just a few days. If you really want him to be back to normal, if you really want the relationship to work out, and if you think it’s totally worth it, then just be patient. Let your man do what he wants to, and you do your thing. Let the relationship unravel itself in this phase too. Maybe when you get back together, your relationship will be stronger than ever before.
5. Never Settle In The Name Of Pleasing Him
In the middle of this phase, if you ever become very unhappy about it or feel miserable, then don’t do it. Talk to your boyfriend about it; be honest about how you are feeling. Never agree to give him space if you’re not convinced about it. You don’t have to put up with anything that makes you feel miserable.
6. Just Trust Yourself And Follow Your Instincts
Just go with your gut feeling. If you have a feeling that it’s not the right thing to agree upon, then don’t! If your gut says this might work out and that it is the best thing, then just do it. Only time will tell if it’s going to work out or not.
Remember not to be pessimistic and afraid when you find yourself in this phase. Make the best use of it for both — your partner and yourself. Rekindle your bonds and let the relationship thrive.
Do you have any tips on how to go about this phase? Leave your answers in the comments below.
