11 Things You Can Learn While Everyone Else Is Getting Married!

Written by Tanya Arora  • 

It seems like all that everyone is diligently doing these days is walking down the aisle! Your friends are getting married, cousins are exchanging vows with their beloved ones and colleagues are inviting you to their round of Saat Pheras. Even among the celebrities, there are not many unmarried singles. From Sonam Kapoor to Priyanka Chopra – they’re either already married or about to tie the knot!

As tempting as marriage may seem, it’s not all rainbows and butterflies. So, instead of losing heart and thinking — mera number kab aayega — take this time to learn important life lessons from the marital experience of others. These’ll help you think that the grass might be greener on your side-

1. Marriage Is Not A Problem-Fixer

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The need for a partner is most deeply felt when you’re going through a rough patch. That being said, you need to know that marriage cannot solve your problems. It can increase them though. If you marry a person you don’t love, respect or appreciate, things will become worse for you.

2. Having Children Does Not Ensure Security And Happiness In Marriage

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When you see couples having children, you may think how picture-perfect their life is. The reality will be quite different though. Having kids does not ensure security and stability in marriage. In fact, raising a child is a test of how strong the marriage really is, rather a proof of it. So if a couple has a baby when they’re not ready, disaster is bound to ensue.

3. Only Way To Know If You Can Marry Someone Is To Find Out If You Can Handle Their Flaws

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Nobody is perfect. Everybody has flaws. However, that still doesn’t mean you marry anyone right? Depending on your own code of values, you might find some flaws more tolerable than others. Hence, when deciding to get married, you should weigh-in the flaws of the person to know if you want to spend the rest of your life tolerating them.

4. Your Spouse’s Personality Cannot Be Changed

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Loads of people marry believing that they can change their spouse’s personality or get rid of their ‘bad habits’ after marrying them. However, that’s a myth. A happy marriage is one in which you love your partner for who they are rather than trying to change them.

5. Career Is Important Too

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In a bid to get married because everyone else is, singles often forget to give their career the importance that it needs. However, a fulfilling career is vital as it’ll help you explore and grow as a person. You’ll also be happier and financially independent, which can ensure a better marriage.

6. You Don’t Need A Partner To Do The Things You Love

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Whether you want to buy a house or travel around the world — you really don’t need a partner for it. You don’t need someone’s approval or appreciation to do the things you really want to do. You can achieve every single dream of yours on your own, the achievement of which is a bigger treasure than the stamp of marriage.

7. A Solo Trip Is An Adventure You Need

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Think about it. A solo trip can never happen after you’re married! Either your partner will insist on going with you or you’ll have kids. Now is the time to seize the opportunity and go on an adventurous solo trip. Get on the road, go on a hike — do something that would help you explore yourself and the world around you!

8. Your ‘Ideal Partner Type’ Is Likely To Change With Time

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Did you think of Batman as the ideal man when you were a teen? Or did you want your woman to be Wonder Woman? You surely have come a long way since! The thing is, there’s nothing like a fixed ‘type.’ As you grow and mature and change with the times, so can your choices. Which means that you might prefer your man/woman to have different qualities than you did before.

9. Every Heartbreak Is A Learning Experience

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When your heart breaks, it’s hard to think about anything else other than the pain you feel. However, when times goes by and you gain a little perspective, you get the chance to realize the lesson every broken relationship has ever taught you. You begin to understand yourself better and know the kind of person you want to be with.

10. Friendship Is A Thing To Value Too

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So, what if you’re not married yet? If you have great friends, you’ve nothing to worry about. Close friendship can add a lot of beauty and meaning to your life. Besides, a genuine friendship can only blossom when you have the time for it, which you do when you’re single!

11. Hobbies Can Improve You

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When you are single, you have ample time to pursue your hobbies and that’s exactly what you should do. Doing something you love can improve you and even make you a better partner. That’s because you’ll be happy and be the best version of yourself.

Marriage is not the be all and the end all of life. There’s more to your life. And pursuing that ‘more’ should be your goal till you find your soulmate.

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