A Guide To Becoming A Better Partner In Your Relationship
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The nature of a romantic relationship is extremely dynamic. Thanks to the countless different circumstances the two partners are posed with, the relationship is bound to change continuously. The infinite ups and downs that both the partners experience makes the relationship stronger. The longevity of everything in life is evaluated on one single factor — its foundation. The stronger it is, the longer it will stay. And this holds very true in the case of relationships as well.
We need to think of a relationship like constructing a house. You always start at the bottom by laying a strong foundation, followed by building its structure — the walls, the pillars, and the like. Once you know that the structure is safe, you can move on to the other details like the color of the house, the interiors, the furniture and the amenities, and finally the spirit of the house which makes it complete.
Similarly, in a relationship, the spirit of both the partners matters to keep it going strong. You might be a good partner in your own eyes, but are you the same in your partner’s eyes as well? In fact, there is nothing like being a perfect partner (it’s only an illusion). A relationship keeps evolving every single day, and you need to adapt to the changes, the challenges, and always ensure that your efforts to keep your loved one happy and secure are consistent. Here are a few ways that will help you be a better partner in your relationship.
1. Don’t Concentrate On How Much Your Partner Annoys You
Who doesn’t have couple problems? Does s/he use their phone while on a date or leave the bed undone? While these things could be irksome, you will probably find a zillion more habits of your partner that you disagree with or get mad at. But, have you thought about your habits that annoy your partner? There could be more than you could imagine! It’s these tiny, sweet-sour fights that either build or break a relationship. Therefore, never obsessively dwell on each other’s flaws.
2. Don’t Just Promise Support, Show It
Actions speak louder than words, right? This saying applies to everything in life, quite literally. It definitely is a nice gesture to appreciate your partner’s work or nature, but you ought to express it as well. What we mean to say here is, you could probably support your partner’s point of view while debating with your friends, or just buy her a nice bouquet of her favorite flowers and tell her how lucky you are to have her in your life. These small actions can make a great deal of a change in a relationship.
3. Empathize With Your Partner
Always prefer to empathize with your partner and not resort to showing sympathy. It’s important that your partner realizes that you are there, by their side, trying to understand their pain (1). Try and picture yourself in their shoes; it’s going to make your bond stronger instantly. If you feel nothing is working, then just look into their eyes. It will help you connect with your partner’s emotions in a jiffy (2).
4. Give Your Partner Your Unwavering Attention
Paying attention to your partner gives them a sense of comfort and assures them that you’re going to be there for them, no matter what. It’s always ideal to believe that if you could do something today for your partner and make them happy, then nothing should stop you from doing it – it is bound to change the course of your relationship in a positive way. Of course, we understand that paying attention all the time isn’t practical. But, you need to instill that feeling in them that they matter to you. Once you do this, the road becomes less rocky to travel on.
5. Consider Working On Yourself
Becoming a better partner in a relationship has to do mainly with you becoming a better person. If you are emotionally stable and in control of your thoughts and expressions, it will get easier to look after the other person (your partner) and keep them happy. Your positive vibes will naturally be transferred to your partner as well. Because your vibe attracts your tribe.
And remember one thing — you being in a relationship does not mean that you need to focus only on your partner and the relationship. Never stop working on yourself. We are all a work in progress, so work on yourself to become a better person (3). Explore what keeps you happy and learn something new. Ultimately, all these experiences will only contribute towards you being a better partner in the relationship.
So, start addressing your relationship as “us” instead of “you” or “me” and see the positive changes that follow. A healthy contribution from both the partners is required for a relationship to last. And if you being a better partner can help brew your love potion with the right aromas, then why be apprehensive? Go ahead and get your relationship on track.
