4 Keys To Getting The Fire Back In Your Relationship
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When it comes to your bedroom life, too much of the same can get, well, predictable. Now, granted, there are a lot of things in our lives that happen to be mundane (which is perfectly acceptable!). But lovemaking, however, should never be one of them.
Don’t ever fall into the trap where you learn to ignore a less-than-exciting bedroom life. Keeping things fresh and fun should always be a concern for both partners in any relationship. After all, at the end of the day, satisfying and regular lovemaking can ultimately make you healthier! You heard us right. Doing so actually helps reduce anxiety and stress levels, and also boosts intimacy levels. All of which ultimately allow you and your partner to share an emotionally connected and fulfilling relationship.
So, if you’ve been stuck in a rut when it comes to under-the-sheets fun, then here are 4 great ways of getting the fire back between those sheets!
1. Start Reading Some Smutty Books
There are plenty of ways for you and your sweetheart to get into the mood for lovemaking (whether that’s together or alone). But out of the myriad of methods out there, reading some smutty fiction is reported to be the most superior way ever. Especially if you happen to be reading in a relaxed and calm environment, as this will allow you to tune out those pesky, external distractions. Instead, all you will focus on is your body, say experts.
Not only are these stories thoroughly entertaining and stimulating, they can also help provide some inspiration for what you and your significant other can get up to between the sheets. If reading is not your thing, other mood building activities that you can give a try include sensual massages or playing adult-only board games like Nooki or Monogamy.
2. Mix Up Your Regular Routine
This is a sure-fire method of ensuring that things remain fresh and exciting in the bedroom. Now, you don’t necessarily need to be swinging from the chandeliers just about every night. However, attempting something new and yet-to-be tested has been successfully reported to increase one’s overall desire, which, in turn, can boost you and your partner’s libido.
So, if you’re a couple who is looking into spicing things up, try taking your fun from the bedroom to a new location. Additionally, you could also try new moves and positions. Now, we know this sounds like rather small changes, but you will be surprised by how even taking your regular bedroom antics to your living room can positively impact your libido.
3. Boost Your Confidence
In a perfect world, all of us would be blessed with shatter-proof confidence that allowed us to explore ourselves and our partners without a hint of self-consciousness. Sadly, that’s not always the case. And if you happen to be someone who could use a boost in your confidence levels, then experts suggest some good ol’ retail therapy as a remedy. If the clothes make the man, trust us, lingerie that flatters your body shape and makes you feel sexy will assuredly take you a long way when it comes to becoming a lovemaking goddess in the bedroom!
And don’t be afraid that you won’t find the perfect confidence-boosting bedroom wear for you. These days the choices that are available to women are absolutely staggering. So, remember, as long as you dress according to your body shape, you can’t really go wrong. If you possess a fuller, voluptuous figure, opt for a corset – it will give stunning results. On the other hand, if you’re on the slender side, try a waspie or body stocking – that’ll be right up your alley!
4. Enhance Lovemaking With Kegels
Kegel exercises are one of the true keys to good lovemaking. But if you’re lost when it comes to identifying your pelvic floor muscles (read: aka. the pubococcygeus or kegel muscles) then try this:
The next time you happen to be answering nature’s call, simply stop and then start your flow repeatedly. Basically, you’re utilizing your pelvic floor muscles in order to do this. This is the action that you will regularly have to repeat in order to give your pubococcygeus muscles a good workout. Additionally, a stronger pelvic floor also means better bladder control – a great thing to have if you’ve had too many kids or happen to be older.
But that’s not all, ladies! Kegel exercises also strengthen and ‘tighten’ the muscles of your vajayjay, which can help boost your sensitivity and, in turn, your arousal. And all of this, of course, leads to longer lasting and much more intense climaxes – what’s not to love!
So, if you and your significant other have been making bed with monotony during what should be sexy times, don’t let this unwelcome guest linger! Spice up your lovemaking with the abovementioned 4 keys and we promise you, you’ll thank us indeed!
