8 Effortless Ways To Keep A Guy Interested In You
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It’s a tale as old as time. You met him, the love of your life, and then you both fell in love. You did fall quite hard. You made him the center of your universe. You even ignored your friends and family just to spend a little extra time with him. And at first, this animal attraction was mutual. He too wanted to spend his every waking moment with you. You guys would be in touch, constantly. Making do with each other’s virtual presence, when meeting IRL (in real life) seemed impossible.
But of late, he seems to be pulling away from you and no matter what you do, you can’t get him to participate in your late-night chats with as much enthusiasm as he did before.
Every relationship goes through these stages, the initial one when you get on like a house on fire and later on the passion sublimates into a comfortable stasis. So how does one get that spark back? To solve this conundrum, we have compiled a list of eight easy ways that will make sure that he has eyes only for you. Read on to know more!
1. Take An Interest In His Interests
We know you want him to listen to your conversations, and follow every thread carefully. We also know that you wish he would be as interested in Downton Abbey as your best friend. But have you ever thought about returning the favor? If you want him to be around for long, we suggest you start listening to him the next time he explains the difference between his two favorite gaming laptops. Trust us, this is going to make him really keen to talk to you. Small price to pay for love, don’t you think?
2. Appreciate Him Openly
While women have been socially conditioned to be these giving, caring entities, the concept of the sensitive man who actually helps out at home and outside, is pretty new, and thus, is in constant need of validation. And hey, who doesn’t need some validation every now and then? So if you see your guy being kind and considerate, appreciate him in a way so that he knows his efforts are being recognized.
3. Give Him Space
We all need that one day in between the zillion meetings and social obligations when we can just kick back with some wine and catch up with our girlies, don’t we? And so does your man. As in, he also needs some time to himself, to recover from the labors of the week. Trick to keep him hooked: Take a weekend off, separately. No texting, except to check in, okay?
4. Develop Your Own Social Circle
If you spend a major portion of your time hanging around with your man, and if he is your tagalong to every outing and occasion, it can be a bit overwhelming for him. As a result, he may want to see less of you. So it’s important that you develop a social circle of your own so that you don’t have to bring him along with you everywhere, and as they say, distance does make the heart grow fonder!
5. Don’t Get Obsessed With Commitment
If you have just begun dating, or if it has been only a couple of months since you began dating, then this one is for you. Don’t obsess about the state of your relationship, (unless you see red flags waving at you, everywhere). Just go with the flow, and enjoy things as they are.
6. Don’t Play Mind Games
One of the most popular pieces of advice and the most unfounded one, that people often get is this: it’s all about the chase. This encourages people to play mind games with each other in order to create a mystery around their relationship. Steer clear of such advice. Men appreciate straight talk, rather than passive-aggressive texts.
7. Be Spontaneous
Don’t let the child inside you die. Not just men, we all appreciate the fun, bindaas people in our lives who spread joy wherever they go. So, follow suit. Make spontaneous plans. An evening out playing badminton is any day better than one spent inside deciding what to eat. If you have a plan for something fun, then follow through on it.
8. Get To Know His Friends
This one is pretty basic but still works quite well. Make an effort to get to know his friends better. Take an interest when he brings them up in a conversation. You will see, it always pays to impress the best friend!
If you feel like we are putting the onus of making things interesting on you, it’s because we are (wink-wink). You should make all the efforts you can to make it work, and if it doesn’t then maybe it wasn’t meant to.
Do try these tips and tell us which one worked for you. If you have any other comments, observations, do share them with us in the comments section.
