What Changes When Your BFF Gets Married

Written by Saumya Gaur  • 

You’ve been with them for the better, most fun part of your life. You’ve witnessed them achieve major life milestones, and they have been there for you when you achieved yours. You’ve been thick as thieves, and perhaps more close to them than your own siblings. Yes, I am talking about that Siamese twin of yours — your BFF.

You might have been in each other’s lives since infancy, but once you’ve entered the perilous adulthood, the equation is going to change. One of the first stops on the journey to adulthood is getting hitched.

The common reaction, when one hears of a dear friend tying the knot is one of surprise or envy, depending on how close you’re with them. But when it’s your BFF all hell breaks loose.

You’re simultaneously over the moon that your veere’s wedding is finally here, and anxious because someone else has staked a claim on the attention and love of your pal.

If you’re one who is awaiting such a change, we’re here to guide you through the changing landscape of your friendship. Here’s a list of a few changes you can expect:

1. Gone Will Be The Days Of Tinder-Swapping Together

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Earlier, a typical Friday night might have involved you scoping out prospects on Tinder together. You might have a routine wherein you dress up each other for a hot date in town and compare notes afterward. About everything, how he walked, talked, and did other things (ahem). But this won’t be the case from now on. Friday nights are now couple nights, and you might have to make your peace with being a third-wheel (if your BFF is so kind, that is).

2. No More Turning Up Unannounced At Their Place

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Remember the days when you would just turn up at your BFF’s place unannounced after a big fight with your parents? Well, that’s history now. Since you will now have to be visiting her and her hubby’s place. You’ll have to be mindful of not causing any inconvenience to them.

The spontaneous visits might be a little more formal, and they should be like that out of respect for your BFF’s spouse. After all, you don’t want to impose on them, do you?

3. Third-Wheel Is A Reality You Will Have To Live With

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Your girls night out might feature a third not-so-welcome guest every now and then. Yes, we know ladies nights are sacred, but your friend might want to bring along her SO to make them more familiar with you, or just because she doesn’t want to leave him alone at home. In either case, you have to accept that and be hospitable to him. You never know, you two actually might hit it off. Being the perpetual third wheel is your life from now on, accept that.

4. You Will No Longer Be Their Go-To

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You might’ve prided yourself on being the deadly combo of friend, philosopher, guide, agony aunty all rolled into one, but now you’ve got competition.

Now, she will have a ready ear to listen to all her work and family woes. All the latest developments in her life that you were in on, you might not be anymore.

It might sting a little at first, but hey, rejoice in the fact that your friend has someone to share her sorrows with, even if it’s not you (A.K.A the best option).

5. You Will Filter Conversations Around Them

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You can no longer throw around casual zingers like “Boys are the worst” or “All men are dogs” because you know her man cannot be lumped in the category anymore. Your conversations will have to walk the thin line between down and dirty, and nice and friendly which would inevitably mean that you filter the stuff that you say around them, especially in the presence of their SO.

Dishing out will probably be not as much fun as before but you’ll live.

6. Impromptu Outings/Vacations/ Won’t Be Possible

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Yes, this is the saddest of all the changes, but you’ll have to understand that your BFF will probably be juggling a lot more stuff than she did before. She has her family, her in-laws, her work and yes, of course, her SO. And she has a responsibility towards every one of them. This means vacations are planned much in advance and your spontaneous trips together are no longer a possibility. But hey, try hard enough and you just might make it to her hallowed calendar, and squeeze in some girl time!

So, these are a few changes that you can expect once your BFF gets married. Instead of looking at these changes as a downgrade on your friendship, you can look at this as an opportunity to spend some quality time with your other friends, and expand your social circle. And as far as your BFF is concerned, you’re always going to be there for each other, no matter what, and that’s one thing that’s never going to change.

How did your friendship with your BFF change after she got married? Share your experiences with us in the comments section.

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