What Does Love Mean – The Anatomy Of Love
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Love is one of the greatest joys in life — the ability to love and care for another. Undoubtedly, love is considered the most powerful emotion that we as humans can comprehend and feel. But, let’s admit that it is also one of the most sophisticated emotions to understand. It means different things to different people.
Centuries have passed by and till today neither the philosophers nor the poets nor the scientists have been able to agree on one single definition as to what it feels like to love someone. We’re sure that one single meaning of love can never be accounted for or documented. It comes to everyone involuntarily, like an infinite force driven by our heart and brain. We’d like to compare it to ‘thirst,’ as we end up doing strange things that are out of control to satisfy our thirst, and same applies to love as well.
In that spirit, we’ve tried to come up with the following anatomy of love for you all!
Love Is A Feeling, Not A Decision
To fall in love with someone cannot be decided, it is a feeling that we unnervingly experience for another. And love has different faces of its own, all of which can be relatable. One is the romantic one that most of us relate to. Our heart skips a beat and being with that person is the only medication that brings us back to our normal self. But, if the attraction is purely based on the physical nature, you’ll have to understand that it’s a feeling of lust. Oftentimes, we don’t realize the feeling of love. We would want to spend every minute with a particular person, looking forward to the next meeting like a lost puppy, unaware that we are in love (1).
How you understand or take love as a feeling also depends on the core values that you and your sweetheart have been brought up with – the compatibility! We’d like to believe love is all things associated with feelings and emotions towards another.
An Action Of Love
Love is a constantly flowing river of the choices you make, the actions you do, and the reactions you get. Being in love will require us to religiously show our love, our concern towards the person we love. As the going gets tough, we need to learn to work things out and stick with our partner. Problems could range from financial issues and career concerns to marriage turbulence and parenting issues. We need to break them all up, keeping ‘being together’ as the only priority. And if your partner is worthwhile, you’ll be on the receiving end too. Never stop expressing love through your actions; else your love life becomes fragile.
Love: An Attachment
Attachment while in love is considered as a phase of its own, an important one. And it grows with time. If you have just entered into a relationship, your mind seems chaotic with mixed emotions. You are excited to explore this new world of love with your partner, and a little fear twitches in your head because you are unsure if everything is going to work out or not. The first stages are not sturdy at all, you need to swim across those tides whilst being comfortable with it. And once you have yourself become a survivor of the tough times, the attachment starts to flourish.
You can take attachment to be the epitome of being comfortable with another. A relationship where the couple is attached to each other, such that they know each other’s routines, dark horses, strengths and weaknesses are bound to last for a lifetime. You know where you are heading and what awaits you isn’t your concern for as long as your partner is with you.
Crisis Points In Love
Every relationship has times when you feel it’s the end, but the question is whether or not you want to fight it out together. Crisis hits everything that seems nice in the world, so how could love be an exception? At the beginning of a relationship excitement prevails, but as soon as the endorphins fade away and you seem settled with your partner, that is where the first phase of crisis starts. You start thinking why can’t you feel the butterflies in your stomach anymore (2).
The second crisis point appears due to some major change in life — welcoming a child, taking over the responsibilities of your aged parents, careers turns, etc. You start craving for your ‘me time’ and search for your lost individuality. Couples start feeling apart.
However, always remember that every relationship isn’t meant to last forever. Some are meant to provide us with learning experiences for a lifetime. It could be a smooth driveway beside a beach or a bumpy ride down a hill, but together you and your partner need to find a highway that comforts both of you as a couple. And if you can’t do it on your own, get outside help and make your love life last longer!
