This Is What It’s Like To Be A Single Girl Of ‘Marriageable Age’ At An Indian Wedding
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It’s not a hidden secret that in culture-driven countries like India, weddings are nothing but festivals. A successfully carried out the wedding is like bestowing a throne on the family. And Indians know that the last few months of the year namely October, November, and December are regarded as the wedding season in India. At every house, you’ll at least find some five to ten wedding cards that the family will have to be attending. I would call it fun to attend an Indian wedding if it were limited to just soaking in the festive spirit of seeing two souls tie the knot along with the blessing of their parents and many other blessings coming from other people whom they aren’t even aware of. But India being India, every single wedding will have at least a few neighborhood aunties scanning the guest attendance in search of a single unmarried girl like me who is living a happy life alone. But that cannot be considered as happy in their eyes, because a girl is supposedly happy only if she has a mangalsutra handing in her neck (duh).
Single, independent women like me aren’t considered whole as yet by society because wedlock is what makes you a respectable woman according to some. The society is also largely responsible for having a messed up concept of single women aged 25 or above.
And when you’re a single girl and you have to attend weddings with your parents, the struggle gets very real because of the aforementioned problems. So, here’s an ode to all those single, beautiful, and happy ladies out there who go through a commotion of thoughts in their head when they attend Indian marriages.
For Parents, Every Wedding They Attend Becomes Like A Rehearsal For Your Wedding
I remember my best friend’s woes when she attended a wedding with her parents. Her mother would dress her up with matching jewelry and other accessories which I think even the bride herself wouldn’t have paid so much attention to. Her mom would be like, “I want everybody’s eyes on you as soon as you enter the wedding venue. Wear an outfit that will outshine even the bride’s trousseau.” My friend would get so terrified by this. She used to feel like her mom wanted her to look like an apsara and lure the single men and more so, the single men’s parents towards her.
There Comes A Point When You Think That The Whole Concept Of A Big Fat Indian Wedding Isn’t Just
Raise your hands if you’ve attended weddings where you hardly know anything about the bride or the groom except that they were once upon a time your neighbors whom you hardly said good morning to. There you go, I can see many hands in the air already. The guest list of thousands where you know only a hundred of them personally. A lavish spread of buffet when you thought you couldn’t afford a single buffet for yourself at a post-seven-star hotel nearby. What is this all about? Whom are you trying to please? If you’re a single girl attending weddings like it were a drill, you’d begin to think that maybe you don’t want your wedding to be this way. You want to do it your way. And ladies, if that’s how you think, then I’ve got your back!
You Begin To Imagine How It’s Like To Be The Bride
Attending all those weddings at least had got to me very personally! Or let’s say it had done the damage it had to on my brain. I would at times find myself in front of my dressing mirror, wondering if my skin too would glow like that if I were a bride. If my dress too would shimmer that way. I would hilariously link the joy of having all eyes on me to the joy of getting a thousand followers suddenly following me on social media.
When You’re Attracting Aunties More Than Cute Guys
The 20s are supposed to be a peaceful part of life. You’re in the epitome of everything- beauty, brains, energy, creativity, etc. And you feel good when the cute guys start hitting on you when you go for parties or attend weddings with your parents. Once you cross the 25 mark in age, it is then you notice that aunties are getting attracted to you more than those cute guys. Aunties start asking you questions like, “Beta, what do you do?”, “Do you like cooking?”, “You have a boyfriend?” Now, why would I or any other single girl answer such a question? Annoying! Sometimes I wish I had learned some voodoo you know *rolls eyes*!
You Watch Your Parents Observe The Wedding Like It Were A Study Assignment
This is common for girls whose parents have become deadly serious about getting their daughter wedded off asap! When you attend weddings with such parents, you’ll end up thinking that they have a mental notepad where they’re taking note of all the wedding arrangements they are impressed with. Your mom might say things like, “Let’s have this at our daughter’s wedding too.” Your dad might say things like, “Aye! Wait, let me get the contact details of the flower decorator.”
I’m sure for the girls who could relate to the above-mentioned facts, they’re gleefully smiling already. Comment about your experience when you attend weddings with your parents. We’ll be happy to read.
