A Wake-Up Call To All Girls Who Have Forgotten What ‘Romantic’ Means
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With time, everything around us changes and involves, doesn’t it? Be it the architecture surrounding us, the technologies we use, our habits and passions, everything changes. And another thing which has also changed with time, and according to me, it’s the most bizarre change, is the way we love. I mean seriously, what were we thinking, there was a time when love just happened to people, right? But now we go looking for it on dating sites, at impromptu dating events, where people flock in search of a soulmate. I didn’t even realize time had changed so much that people started to bond over “Netflix and chill” and not over conversations had over cups of coffee at picturesque restaurants.
I really want to know what is it that is actually holding guys back from taking to girls on actual romantic dates. I find it completely baffling. I won’t just blame the boys. Even the girls these days have different definitions for love. How on earth does a message from your boyfriend sent at 2 am in the night convey that he loves you more over a message sent at 11:55 pm? (Rolls eyes)
What pains me more is seeing girls around me settling for less, only because they think they have it better than the other girls. It’s like you are already hopeless and you’d say yes to the first guy who tries to woo you. Where have those days gone when a guy would take a girl on romantic late-night walks, walking hand-in-hand under the countless stars? Dates have such hopeless terminology these days. It’s only after you become a boyfriend and girlfriend that every outing of yours is called a date. It doesn’t matter that you went out multiple times before that, those outings are just considered hook-ups or maybe some drunk sleepovers.
I know you must be thinking that this article is more of a rant and you must be itching to tell me, “What can we do about this now?” Well, first of all, to the girls who are reading this, I would like to say that you don’t have to lose your sleep over a guy’s text just to ensure that he loves you. Girls, if you really love him you can be the one to message him first, right? Stop analyzing the relationship on your terms, all by yourself. Because, in the end, it’s two souls and their decisions that matter. We set our own expectations in our heads and never convey them to our partners. And when we find our partner not fulfilling these so-called expectations (which I totally consider stupid), we immediately conclude that maybe he or she doesn’t love us enough. And we immediately start looking for another significant other to fill those shoes. Are we playing football or cricket here? Wherein, when one player is fined or is ill, we find a substitute for him from the extra players on board.
Look, girls, we just need to stop thinking that every guy who sets his eyes on us might be the one. The truth is that if he is meant to be your Mr. Right, he is going to find a way into your life and sweep you off your feet. You need to find yourself a man who would be a classic romantic, just like you want him to be. Don’t budge and give in to those men who message you at odd hours asking to “come hang.” You can do that with your friends. Tell the guy that if he really just wants to hang out with you then he needs to message or call you in the broad daylight as well.
Do you like love letters, red roses, candlelight dinners, late-night walks, weekend long-drives, movie dates, etc.? I’m sure many of you are nodding your heads in agreement. So if that’s what you want, acknowledge the fact that you are a romantic, and find yourself a partner who is a diehard romantic as well. Don’t just sit there complaining that boys are stupid when the truth is that you are letting those exact same guys walk all over you.
If you have already come across the man you always wanted to be with, then be your best, lovable, romantic self, and win his heart and let him win yours. There’s no harm in you taking the first step. That’s romantic too. Do that and set the stage for your epic love story. And puh-lease, the next time you find yourself sulking over a guy and waiting for his text at 2 am, please consider this advice of mine – just call the pizza delivery number and get yourself a double margarita pizza. Because people might disappoint but a pizza will never do that, for a pizza’s love is eternal!
