4 Situations Where It’s Good To Get Back With Your Ex
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Getting over a breakup is hard. And it is even harder when, deep down in your heart, you know that your ex still loves you and you too may never be able to move on. Misunderstandings are bound to happen when in a relationship, but you drift apart when you both refuse to communicate and find a solution. You may often brood over the past and regret having not made the one timely stitch that lead to your relationship bursting at the seams. Sometimes all you want is to have him or her back in your life, but you will be confused as to whether that is a good idea or not.
Well, here are 4 situations in which it is a good idea to rush back into your ex’s arms without giving a second thought! Read on to know more.
1. When There Is A Lot More Than Love Between The Two Of You
If you have been thinking of getting back with your ex, the first question you need to sincerely ponder over and answer is: Does he make you happy and complete? You may find a man who takes care of your bread and butter and even your Gucci and Prada if you want to. But it is hard to find a man who makes your soul happy, who makes sure your emotional needs are met; a man with whom you can be sans pretence and talk your heart out.
A simple example of this would be when your breakup happens because one of you is moving abroad and both of you detest the idea of a long-distance relationship. But even after you have broken up, if meeting again seems as great as it was in the good old past – where your partner exudes the same warmth, love, honesty, and sincerity – then trust me, he is not someone you should lose.
But us suggesting you get back with your old flame doesn’t mean you should fear experimenting and mingling with the sea of people out there. During the time you have been apart and dating different people, it may happen that you might end up feeling a stronger pull towards your old love. If that is the case, it’s time to get back!
2. When Your Love Is Greater Than Your Problem
Getting back with your ex is entirely your own decision. It depends on how big you think are the reasons for which you broke up with your ex. It also depends on how well you have shouldered the responsibilities for things that soured the relationship from your side, and how hard have you worked on your self-growth.
If you have analysed the science behind your breakup, sometimes you could find that it was a very impulsive move from your end or perhaps your partner had a bad day. Or, maybe, you guys just got overly melodramatic! In short, it makes perfect sense to probe within to find answers as to what went wrong, and, yeah, do this only when you genuinely feel your ex is the only one for you.
It is quite possible that the reason for the discord between you two are no longer valid and love reigns supreme!
3. When Their Actions Speak Louder
Actions are far more important than words in a relationship. An overprotective partner may shower you with praises when you are alone. But if they go berserk the moment you pick up the phone to talk to a friend or are out with your office mates, then I am sure you are already single again. Apart from being in love, the ability to trust and to give each other some space matters a lot. If your ex has been calling you off late and begging you to get back to him, claiming that he is a changed man now, watch his actions and then take a call.
4. When You Both Are Committed
It is easy for onlookers to advise a couple that recently broke up to just move on. But sometimes, a part of you refuses to move on. If he slams down your BFF’s ‘coffee-date’ or if you see her lost and lonely in a crowd, then perhaps you both are very committed towards each other. Sit together, discuss, and make sure your expectations are clearly communicated. Once you are sure that you guys are on the same page, just kiss and make up!
Heartbreak has never been easy for anyone. It isn’t as melodramatic as it has been depicted in Bollywood; but nevertheless, it can be quite earth-shattering. If you have had very strong reasons for your breakup, then it is best to leave history on the shelves and march into the future. But if you feel you and your ex-lover have made a terrible mistake by breaking up, make sure you waste no time to get back with each other!
