MyStory: Why I Accepted His Proposal

Written by Anjala Farahath  • 

Does the thought of marriage scare the living daylights out of you? Well, I used to run from commitments, so marriage was something that I never even thought about. Even if I sniffed anything to do with marriage, I used to run away from the situation. When my friends were busy discussing their ideas of fairytale weddings and their versions of Prince charming, I was busy planning my solo travels and reveling the life’s adventures.

I wasn’t against the idea of love, I was just not very convinced by the idea of getting into a legal agreement to attest the legitimacy of our love for someone. Because let’s admit it, it’s scary! Marriage isn’t just about two people; it involves the families of the boy and the girl, the families of your neighbors, and the families of everybody that you have ever come across in life. It’s not just about making each other happy, it becomes more about making sure that everybody is happy with what we do as a couple. And, to me, that was a huge responsibility (that I wasn’t ready to take on). But, it all changed one day…

Why I Fell In Love With Him

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Falling in love is quite a daring thing to do right? It’s like standing at the edge of a cliff and glancing at the bottomless depths. It’s thrilling and at the same time, it’s capable of driving you insane with the endless doubts and fears. That’s how I fell in love— I thought I was just looking and glancing and before I knew it, I had taken the plunge. The whole world seemed like a blur. All that mattered was just him and me.

I met Armaan 2 years ago. Unlike most men, he had something about him that made me fall in love with him to an extent that there was no going back. You know, the kind of love that seems scary because you get so addicted to your partner that you can’t imagine life without them? Yes, we just clicked. And in no time, we realized that our lives had become intertwined. We had started working out together, traveling together, exploring the best restaurants in town, driving to work together, and basically just living together. We had common friends and we had become so invested in each other’s lives that it was so easy to be around each other. I felt like I was the most comfortable when in his company. Unlike other relationships in life (with family, friends, and exes), this relationship was less demanding and more rewarding. We didn’t have to make an effort to have the perfect moments, it was all just perfect without even trying.

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Life seemed so easy when he was around. He wasn’t a third parent to me like my ex was. He wasn’t someone who thought that I was just a damsel in distress. In fact, he was someone who believed in me and let me be the way I was. He encouraged me to pursue the things that I had given up on. Knowingly or unknowingly, he just made me stronger than I was. Be it my hellbent views on feminism, or my annoying tantrums on my period days, he took it all. Whenever I got too dependant on him, he reminded me to be the independent individual that I always took pride in being. I think that’s what made me look at him and think, “I think he is the one!” Because, he wasn’t the kind who would limit me and cage me, but he was someone who would give wings to my dreams and let me fly!

When He Popped The Question

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It wasn’t a proposal out of a Bollywood movie, it was something special. We were on a trek and we had successfully reached the summit. We were exhausted but were exhilarated to see the view from atop Kedarkantha. That’s when he just looked at me and said that he wants to achieve all the heights in life, with me by his side. “Will you be my partner in all the journeys of life?” He asked. I just looked at him and casually nodded in affirmative. But, he asked me again, “Are you in for a lifetime of you and me, and our crazy families?” That’s when it struck me, and I hesitated. I didn’t tell him anything till we descended down the peak. But the whole time I was just thinking about what to tell him. I loved the man, but I was afraid of getting married. I grew up in a family where my parents argued more than they had conversations. The idea of marriage wasn’t really pleasant for me. I said I wasn’t sure and he just understood.

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But, when I went back home, I realized that I wanted to be around him. I wanted to go home to Armaan, and cuddle under the duvet with him, and embrace the sunrise with him. I wanted to grow with him— as an individual and as a couple. I wanted to see him wake up with all the grogginess and then take on the day with his amazing charisma. I wanted him to be my sunrise and sunset, I wanted to be a part of his fears, his happiness, his achievements, and everything… yes, his family too. Because, I wanted to love him fully; with all his deepest secrets, his weaknesses, his flaws, his strength, and his childlike innocence.

And I just sat down and asked myself that what was I waiting for? If I was waiting for someone who would make me go crazy and wild, and fuel my insanity, I had found him. If I was waiting for someone who would make me feel like I was on cloud nine just by hugging him, I had found him. If I was waiting for someone who would make feel like my unreasonable, weird, and crazy self was beautiful inside out, I had found him. What was I waiting for then? While I was busy thinking all of this, my phone rang. It was Armaan. I just picked up the phone and before he could even say anything, I said, “Yes, I will be your partner for all the journeys of life. And I am ready to embrace all the attachments of your life, because, with you around, everything is going to be perfect!” He was stunned.

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It’s been a year now, and we have been making amazing memories with each other and each other’s families. I am glad I said yes to a lifetime of happiness, I am glad that I said yes to the man who made me fall in love with myself. I am glad I said yes to a whole new world of possibilities.

Why did you say yes to your partner’s proposal? Tell us your story in the comments below.

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