4 Reasons Why Your Man Might Lose Interest After Sleeping With You
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Maybe you decided to take it on a slow note. And you wanted to make sure that he is worthy of your love. You probably wanted him to put in more efforts so that you were sure of him when you decided to be vulnerable with him. Sure, the third time you met him, you were attracted to him in a way that you had thought about getting intimate with him. But you held the reign of your thoughts and waited until you got to know him a little better, beyond those coffee dates. From then on, every time he planted a kiss on your cheek, you would start wondering how he’d be in bed with you, making love to you. You would often think to yourself — will he be a good performer or a disappointment? Again, you would stop yourself from wandering in your love island and decide to give yourself time to know him well, get answers to all your doubts about him, before letting your sensual instincts take control of your heart and mind.
Now, what we want to ask is, did it work for you? If you’re reading this article, then we’re guessing that it definitely hasn’t. We’re assuming that you must’ve played hard to get and made him wait quite a bit before you finally romped between the sheets. And immediately after that night, you’ve felt the distance between you two grow. While you thought that making love after a while of patient waiting, might seal the deal for the two of you, the opposite happened — you experienced a loss of grip on your relationship. And then he just left you. What went wrong? Was there a fault in you or in the stars? Was it something that you said that made him leave? There’s more to this than these questions that are running in your head. Let’s read and understand what made your man leave you even after you bared your vulnerable self to them.
1. Sometimes, That’s All They Want — To Get Into Your Pants
There’s this phase in their life when all that men want is to get laid and this applies to a majority of the chunk of men out there all over the world. It could be in their 20s, in their 30s, and maybe even in their 40s or even in their 50s — sorry peeps, but we just cannot explain or tell you the exact window frame of this phase. Men who let their reptilian brain control them, will do everything in their capability in order to win women’s hearts.They schmooze the women out there, and get the ladies to open up (literally and figuratively). And once they’ve achieved a nice, action night, boom, that’s the end of it! They got what they wanted, and they’ll move on from the very next minute.
2. It Was Lust That Blinded Him
Maybe he was blinded by those rose-tinted glasses that he was seeing through. He thought he knew you well enough. Initially, he had all the intentions of becoming your man for life. But after making love that night, he’s damned and scared. He just doesn’t feel the connect now. Maybe he needed that intimate night to realize this. While it may look like he just used you for a fun night, the truth could be that he just realized that you two couldn’t really have a future together. Physically, you both might still be attracted to each other. But you shouldn’t worry if your man does this to you and is open about his doubts. Understand the root cause of the doubts and try to mend the loopholes which might make him think that he was just over thinking. If you want him to stay, win him over.
3. There Is No Chemistry Between You Two
The date was perfect. He invited you over to his apartment. You felt happy and secure that he didn’t take you to a motel and rather chose to take you home instead. But you both couldn’t really have fun in bed. Maybe, he finishedsooner than expected and maybe he left you unfinished. And you both ended up looking at the ceiling, lying next to each other, wondering what went wrong.
It’s totally okay if this happened to you girl, it takes a while for both, the man and the woman, to understand the tunes of each other’s bodies and groove to it. You could sit with him and try to know his intimate fantasies and share yours with him. You’ll get it right, soon!
4. Your Emotional Attachment Towards Him Scares Him
You must have not been very attracted to your man until the most action-packed night happened between the two of you. After that, you experience head-over-heels type of attraction towards him. But he isn’t responding to your text messages, which is making you cranky. On the other hand, he is getting worked up seeing so many messages coming from you. Maybe, he must have fallen for the laidback attitude of yours and now that you’re trying to be with him all the time, it scares the hell out of him.
If he’s giving you signs of discomfort, learn to read them and make him understand your feelings. You both can figure a way out of this.
That said, at the end of the day, if it’s meant to be, it will be! The universe can give you signs, but you have to learn to recognize and understand them. If there’s anything we missed out on, let us know in the comments section below.
