Why You Shouldn’t Have To Wait To Be Loved

How many times have you heard the age-old adage that if you love someone you should set them free, and if they come back then it was meant to be? In theory, it sounds like a perfectly sound life advice, but what about the person who is left waiting on the other end. If you are in a similar situation then you have to ask yourself — what exactly are you waiting for? Are you waiting for your knight in shining armor to jump in front of you and say, “Surprise, surprise! I’m here”? Or, are you waiting for the cupid to strike? Whatever may be your reason, we’ll tell you why you shouldn’t have to wait for an eternity to be loved. Read on.

Are You Waiting For Them To Say It Back?

Are you waiting for them to realize that they love you as well? This has been a problem among couples since time immemorial. One person says, “I love you” too soon, while the other cannot reciprocate. It’s funny and at times it’s even awkward when you watch it in a sitcom or a movie. However, it’s not funny when you are that person in the relationship who said too much, too soon. If you have invested enough time and energy and yet, your partner is miles away from uttering those three magical words, it might be time to move on.

Are You Waiting To Become Their Plan A?

It is very easy to get entangled in relationships, but it is important that you get closure once a relationship ends. If your partner has had many relationships in the past and is constantly looking for a way out, then it might be the moment to call it quits. It would be wise to end the relationship. You have to make yourself a priority and not wait for them to finally realize your importance. If s/he is genuinely finding it tough to move on from a previous relationship, be there for them. But, make sure it does not become an endless wait.

Are You Waiting For Their Career To Get On Track?

Careers are important; there is no doubt about it. After all, this is what you were gearing up for, all your adult life, right? However, there is a time and place for everything. Missing out on date night or two for an important meeting is completely understandable. But, if this is a common scenario in your life, ask yourself if you deserve this. Is this a temporary arrangement? Is your partner up for an important promotion? Or, is this their default mode of functioning? If it is a long-standing habit, then it might be the time for you to move on. It’s clear that the most important thing in their life is not you, nor are you going to be, any time soon.

Are You Waiting For Them To Get Over Their Fear Of Commitment?

Commitment is often the dreaded C-letter word for a number of people. Although a lot of us enter into relationships, it’s only a few who do so with a sense of direction. That is, they know what they want from a relationship and are willing to put in the hard work. A lot of us fall into the other criteria — the commitment-phobic criteria. People who fit in this bracket expect all the intimacy that couples share, but they have their own terms. It can be that your partner is constantly nagging you for attention when you are busy with something, but the moment you are available, s/he manages to miss your call. Or s/he will pick a fight. If this sounds familiar, it might be the time to have the talk.

Are You Waiting For Them To Find Themselves?

There is no trope as old, and as worn out as the one of “finding oneself”. True, every human needs to find a deeper calling in life in order to attain emotional satisfaction and good mental health. However, this cannot be a reason for bailing out on a relationship. If you’re entering into a relationship knowing this, and later on, abandon it to seek your answers; then, I am sorry to inform you that you have been completely selfish. A partner like this who is solely focussed on his/her needs is not the partner you want. A relationship is a two-way street and it cannot be about one person’s needs and wants.

Being fine and forgiving is one thing, but putting one’s needs on the back burner for someone else is not cool at all. And, this too without any surety or guarantee of the other person returning the favor is a big sacrifice. We have to realize that if we don’t love ourselves then no one else will. So, if you find yourself in any of these situations, then we would suggest you turn the focus on yourself. Because self-love is also true love and you don’t even need another person for that!

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